Is self-help industry making fool of us?

What is a self-help industry?

This is the industry that sells self-help advice to people who want to find their purpose in life or want to know the ultimate goal of life. This industry is making billions of dollars and it is still growing. 

Many times shit is sold to us and we don't even realize we are trapped in it because this content is highly addictive. And these guys already know what they ate selling to us.

For the past 3-4 years I have been consuming a lot of content on self-help. I was so fascinated by this knowledge, that how it changes lives and how people are having fun after following some rules like waking up early, manifestation, journaling, the law of attraction, etc...

I am not denying the fact that I have gained some value from those books, videos, podcasts and blogs and Instagram posts. 

But somewhere I felt demotivated after not following those set of rules like not waking up early and not exercising daily. I always felt that maybe something is wrong with me. I was lost in the false world. 

Many times I realized that nothing was going as planned in my life and that made me feel irritated and to remove this sort of feeling I used to watch those videos again. 

Because I was in love with that kind of content, it motivated me every time. Each post, each book and every video was so shiny that made me fall in love with this industry.

What the hell is ACTION FAKING????

Actually, it was like an escape route for me. Instead of finding solutions to my problems I was running away from them. Basically, what happened was whenever I searched for a solution online to achieve a certain goal, that content made me feel like I already had achieved the goal. This is known as action faking. 

This thing is worse than procrastination.

I wasn't working for anything but still I had a sense of completion. I was not even realising that my time was getting wasted. This happens with many people. Well... now I am happy that I realized it soon.

There were many things that didn't work out for me.

Let's take an example of the Law of Attraction. I used to ask the universe to solve my problem, instead of facing it on my own. That phase was a disaster for me. Nothing worked. I saw many people online making boards and doing manifestation.

Here is a piece of advice, if you want anything from life you have to pay a price which is your time towards that goal.

Many self-help gurus are really good at marketing. They sell their lies or ideas and techniques to us really well. 

I have also written some self-help blogs. I wrote what I had experienced. But during this pandemic, I explored myself more and more. And my perspective around this whole self-help idea is not same as what it was a few months back. 

My beliefs changed. Now I see this world differently.

I tried to upload more blogs but I was not satisfied. Because my perspectives were changing on daily basis. 

I am realizing now that I consumed a shit load of things but it shaped my perspective. Now I have my own opinions almost about everything. 

It is good to make mistakes and have a realization that you fucked up. Now you know that way was wrong. Try another. 

Well.. this is life. Nobody knows what is right or wrong. Try out different things and see what works for you. 

Don't fall for buttery talks, shiny lives of the speakers and authors, or Instagram posts and models.

If you are reading this post that means either you started consuming self-help content or you have been in the process of consuming it. Ask yourself a question that how do you feel after watching a bunch of motivational videos or reading a bunch of self-help books. 

Answer honestly.

How do you feel after not getting the same result as you expected and as your speaker had committed? 

Start questioning everything you do....

Here are some links which I found really good.

https://markmanson.net/self-help

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmLTLkCBSN8

Every person's experiences are different so it is possible that my views do not match with many of you. That is totally okay. But I want to say that please do not blindly follow these gurus or books. Start questioning whatever you are following.

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